October 18, 2024
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‘I’m too old for that shit’: I didn’t visit family or friends while back in town. Am I the jerk?

‘I’m too old for that shit’: I didn’t visit family or friends while back in town. Am I the jerk?

“Hi Moving Diaries,”

Hey, so I packed my bags and left my old stomping grounds a while back (before COVID crashed the party). I still have some ties there, like this house I’ve been renting out that I’m getting ready to sell. I had this bright idea a few months back to swing by for a quick visit, but as the date approached (and all my plans were set), I just wasn’t feeling it. My college buddies and work pals had drifted away, and I couldn’t muster up the excitement for those catch-up sessions. Plus, my nephew’s family is a bit, uh, weird – let’s just say I’d rather skip the drama.

Instead of forcing myself to play nice, I’ve been chilling in my cozy hotel room, binging on Netflix and hitting up all the burger joints I’ve missed. And my realtor? She’s an absolute gem – making house-selling actually enjoyable. Yeah, they’re supposed to be friendly, but hey, I’ll take that over awkward family reunions any day.

Am I a jerk for dodging everyone (except one far-off sibling who knew I was in town)? Maybe a little, but honestly, it just would’ve been too much hassle. At this point in life, I’d rather kick back than deal with all that drama.

Catch you later,
Road Trip Rebel

Response from THE MOVING DIARIES:

Hello There,

While it may feel challenging to navigate these conflicting emotions and obligations, it’s essential to prioritize your own mental well-being and comfort. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling ambivalent about reconnecting with old friends and family members with whom you don’t share common ground or have positive interactions. Your decision to focus on self-care during this visit, enjoying your own company, and making the most of your time in a familiar place is valid and important.

In situations like these, it’s crucial to listen to your instincts and prioritize your own needs. It’s okay to recognize when certain relationships may not be fulfilling or healthy for you and choose to step back rather than engaging in uncomfortable or stressful interactions. Setting boundaries and taking time for yourself is a valid form of self-care, especially when faced with challenging or awkward social dynamics.

As you continue to navigate this visit and the process of selling your property, remember that your well-being and comfort should come first. It’s okay to prioritize your own happiness and peace of mind, even if it means not engaging in obligatory visits or interactions that may not bring you joy. Trust your instincts and continue to focus on activities and connections that bring you fulfillment and positivity during your time in your original home area.

Take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being as you navigate this situation. Your feelings and choices are valid, and it’s important to prioritize your own mental health and comfort above all else.

Best regards,

THE MOVING DIARIES

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