So, I recently got this awesome promotion at work! I’m 24, and I’ve been busting my butt as a real estate agent. I finally got bumped up to Senior Realtor with a fat raise and the chance to lead a small team. It’s a dream come true, and I’m super stoked about it!
But here’s the twist – my partner, who’s 36, has been struggling with his career for a while now. He’s been stuck in a rut, sending out endless job applications with no luck. His confidence has taken a hit, and he gets touchy whenever work or success comes up.
When I got the promotion, I was over the moon and wanted to shout it from the rooftops. But then I held back. I know he’s had his moments feeling envious or frustrated about my success before. I didn’t want to rub it in his face or make him feel worse, so I kept quiet.
It’s been a few weeks now, and I’m still keeping this big news under wraps. I’ve celebrated with my work buddies and spilled the beans to my family, but I’m playing it low-key with my partner. I’m worried he’ll see it as a blow to his struggles and cause unnecessary tension between us.
But now I’m feeling guilty. He’s my partner, and I feel like I should be able to share my wins with him. At the same time, I don’t want to kick him while he’s down. It’s a tough call – supporting him emotionally or being honest about my success.
So, what do you think, Moving Diaries? Was I wrong to keep my promotion under wraps to spare his feelings, or should I have spilled the beans right away despite the circumstances?
Farewell,
Rising Star
Response from THE MOVING DIARIES:
"Hello There,"
Congratulations on your well-deserved promotion! It’s truly an exciting achievement and a testament to your hard work and dedication in the real estate industry. However, I can understand the dilemma you’re facing with your partner’s career struggles and how sharing your success might impact him.
In situations like these, open and honest communication is key in any relationship. While it’s understandable that you’re concerned about potentially triggering his feelings of jealousy or insecurity, keeping such a significant milestone from your partner might inadvertently create more tension in the long run. Perhaps it would be helpful to approach the conversation with empathy and sensitivity, acknowledging his current challenges while also sharing your excitement about the promotion.
It’s important to express your feelings honestly, explain your concerns about how he might perceive the news, and reassure him of your support during this difficult time. This way, you can celebrate your success together while also addressing his emotions and nurturing your relationship with understanding and compassion.
Remember, sharing both the highs and lows of your life with your partner strengthens your bond and fosters mutual trust and support. By approaching the situation with thoughtfulness and consideration for his feelings, you can navigate this delicate balance and have a meaningful conversation that ultimately deepens your connection as a couple.
Best of luck in sharing the news with your partner, and congratulations once again on your promotion!
Warm regards,
THE MOVING DIARIES
