Hi Moving Diaries,
So, I’m in the process of buying my first home, and my girlfriend has been super supportive. She recommended her friend to do the home inspection, and I went ahead and scheduled it for a Monday at 10:00 a.m. But oops, turns out my girlfriend wanted to be there and had free time on Saturday. My bad!
Now she’s mad at me, saying I should’ve checked with her first before confirming. I’ve been trying to make it right, but she’s still upset. Am I in the wrong here? Help a clueless home-buyer out!
Oh, and just to be clear, my girlfriend and the inspector are just friends with no romantic history whatsoever (had to get that out there before any wild speculations start). Thanks for any advice!
Luv, Home-Buying Newbie
Response from THE MOVING DIARIES:
Hello There,
I’m sorry to hear about the situation you’re currently facing with your girlfriend. It’s understandable that miscommunications like these can happen, especially when there’s excitement and eagerness involved in such a significant milestone like buying a new home. Your intention to move forward with the home inspection on Monday was based on your eagerness to progress with the process, and I can see how it may not have aligned with your girlfriend’s expectations.
In such cases, it’s essential to acknowledge each other’s perspectives and find a middle ground that works for both parties. Since your girlfriend expressed a desire to be present for the inspection and had a specific preference for the timing, it’s crucial to consider her input as well. It’s great that you offered to contact the inspector and reschedule to accommodate her availability, showing your willingness to address the situation and make amends.
Moving forward, it might be beneficial to have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about the situation. Acknowledge her feelings and express your understanding of why she was upset. Discuss how you can better communicate and coordinate such arrangements in the future to avoid similar misunderstandings.
Taking accountability for your actions and actively working towards finding a resolution can help strengthen your relationship and foster better communication moving forward. It’s a learning experience for both of you, and it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you’re willing to address them and improve.
Remember, communication and understanding are keys to navigating challenging situations like this. I wish you the best in resolving this issue and progressing smoothly with your home buying journey.
Best,
THE MOVING DIARIES
